Are there cons to homeschooling?
This is a hard post to write because I once was unabashedly pro-homeschooling and didn’t really believe there were cons to homeschooling. Now, I am still for it in the right circumstances, but I am not an over-the-top-everyone-needs-to-homeschool-to-be-a-good-parent any longer. Many of you may be churning around the school choice decision in your mind, so I wanted to offer a few cons that I have discovered personally or through friends through my many years of homeschooling. These aren’t normally verbalized because to do so would mean that it is not the perfect form of education and many in the movement would not want to admit that. But I want to share these homeschooling cons for consideration so that people can make an informed choice.
1. Financial.Most families give up a second income to homeschool. It is very difficult to have both parents work and homeschool, although not impossible. Many families who homeschool make a lot of sacrifices financially to live on one income. This is good to a point (being thrifty is a virtue IMHO), but it can be problematic as the years go on because some accumulate debt, others go without some things that really are needed (like regular dental care), most can’t save a lot for the future, and others can’t get loans for homes and cars.
3. Lazy, unmotivated students.Some kids just do not work well for mom. Many of them tend to be lazy and unmotivated without that outside accountability. I found this to be especially true as they reach the middle school years and my boys were also more like that although that may not be typical. I think it is due more to personality. My lazy children work so much better for their teachers at school.
5. Socialization problems.This is the most common con that homeschool opponents put forth to homeschoolers. After homeschooling 7 children for 20 years, I believe that homeschooling is not always the best socially for SOME children. Both of my adult children whom were homeschooled completely through high school, thought that they were at a disadvantage socially. I think if you homeschool your children, you need to take personalities into account and make sure you have plenty of opportunities for getting your children involved with friends especially when they are teens.
I am sure there are other cons of homeschooling, but these are the ones I have noticed the most. Feel free to share any cons you have encountered through homeschooling.