About Rest for the Weary

I hope you will find this little spot a place of rest and refreshment for your soul. My intention is to build up women in the trenches of homeschooling. This includes veterans who are burned out and former homeschooling moms who have decided for one reason or another to put some or all of their children in school. Thanks for stopping by. Take a deep breath of refreshment for your weary soul.

Thursday, October 30, 2014

31 day writing challenge: New Blog

Just a quick announcement on this next to last day of the writing challenge. I have officially moved the blog over to my new site, Rest for the weary homeschool mom.   I am still doing a lot of work on it, but that is where the main content is. Please bookmark this page and pass it along.  See you over there!

Saturday, October 25, 2014

31 day writing challenge: School mom stuff

I think I am finally a full-fledged school mom.  This past week, I have done several volunteer jobs at my children's school.  Tonight was the Fall festival, and it was such a different experience.  I was a bit overwhelmed because of the number of children, but overall it was a lot of fun.  I am used to a smaller homeschool gathering of 8-10 families, but now we attend a school with 350 kids.  I still feel a bit out of place since most of these families have been at this school together for many years.  I am sure I will begin to feel more comfortable the more time I spend helping out.


Friday, October 24, 2014

31 day writing challenge: Poll on homeschooling burnout

I finally learned how to do a poll.  My question to you readers is have or did you experience burnout.  Please scroll to the bottom of the page to cast your vote.  This will help me in my latest project (besides moving the blog and publishing my ebook) which is an ebook/workbook on recognizing burnout and telling it apart from depression and helps for burnout.  I hope for it to be ready for the new year, when burnout typically peaks. 
Public domain

Thursday, October 23, 2014

31 day writing challenge: Guest post

Today I am guest posting over at Allison's blog,  Our Small Hours. This is my official first guest post other than blog carnivals.

I am writing about my journey through homeschool burnout.  Please come on over and join me there!

Homeschool Burnout

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

31 day writing challenge: parent teacher conferences

I didn't plan this one; It was scheduled for me.  It is that time of the year at my children's school. I had parent teacher conferences for my children. All of them finished their first 9 weeks with amazing grades.  Most of them are adapting socially as well.  For those of you moms concerned if your children will do well academically, I am sure they will.  This was always one of my biggest fears; That we weren't doing enough to keep up with schools.  It is hard when you have no one to compare yourself to, and all of the responsibility falls on our shoulders.  But it is true what statistics say about homeschoolers.  They tend to thrive especially academically if and when they go to school. I have spent the last 9 weeks praying for academic success for my dyslexic child and another child that really feels stupid.  God has been so generous in answering those prayers.  I want my children to gain confidence, and this helps so much.  My second prayer has been for them to make good friends.  That one has been a bit harder especially for my middle school children, but it is happening.

Aren't they cute?

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

31 day writing challenge: Blog change

I missed posting yesterday.  I have been busy looking into converting this blog over to a new one.  It is a lot of work, but I think I am going to take the plunge.  I want to do this before I launch my ebook. So, this is my new for yesterday and today, working on moving the blog over.  Hopefully the process won't take forever!

Saturday, October 18, 2014

31 day writing challenge: 3 adult children and 3 teens

The day nearly got away from me before I realized I hadn't done something new.  I was busily preparing a cake for my son who turned 18.  So, although I didn't do anything new or learn something new, I have hit a first.  I now have 3 adult children and 3 teenagers (this son being in both of those categories, and 2 tweens.    Now you know why I'm a bit crazy :)


He still loves chocolate cake!!

Friday, October 17, 2014

31 day writing challenge: Giving up Facebook

Lately, I have been feeling a lot of stress. Many things are going on in my life, and it has left my soul feeling less than peaceful.  One thing I noticed is how I felt after reading Facebook.  There is a lot of drama on there plus people like to post news stories, and lately there has been nothing in the news but fear.  So, my "new" for today was to give up facebook, except when my daughter sends me a message letting me know she put up pictures of my granddaughter.  That is the only thing I am enjoying on it. I am hoping this switch will bring me some needed relief.
Has anyone ever given up Facebook long term and if so, how did it impact you?

"f" Logo

Thursday, October 16, 2014

31 day writing challenge: Lunch with friends

For most of my married life, I have had children at home because of being a stay-at-home-mom and homeschooling.  I did have play dates with friends and their children, and it was a great way to connect for that much needed adult conversation.  I haven't had friends over for anything (without my kids) so I decided to have my friends over for lunch.  I served tuna sandwiches, cucumber salad, and fresh blackberries.  For dessert, I made petits fours.  Although I have made those before, I had only done it once, and now I remember why.  They are a lot of work but super tasty. It was such a fun, relaxing time for us, and we were able to catch up with each other.  One of these friends still homeschools, and the other has put her children in the same school as some of mine.  I will be doing this again!


Petits fours

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

31 day writing challenge: You Tube video

I am not very tech smart, but I have been wanting to make you tube videos. This month was a perfect opportunity.  Below are two videos I made, both songs by my 2 oldest at home.  My father's birthday is Friday so I had them replay these songs.   Amazing Grace is played by my son at my father's funeral last year.  Both my son and daughter did On Eagle's Wings together in the hospital when my dad was taken off his ventilator.  It made him calm down, and he looked so peaceful.






Tuesday, October 14, 2014

31 Day writing challenge: Play in the rain

I am seeking more joy, magic, and fun in my life.  Life is serious enough so being lighthearted is sorely needed.  It has finally been raining a bit here, and it is still warm so when I had the chance, I ran outside and played in the rain.  I haven't done this since I was a kid, but I have fond memories of doing this.  Now I remember why.  It made me laugh and enjoy one of God's simple gifts.  I think this could be very therapeutic to those weary of life's burdens or those suffering from depression. If you are feeling down, play in the rain.  You will be glad you did.


Monday, October 13, 2014

31 day writing challenge: tennis

My husband is a tennis coach which means he is an excellent tennis player.  When we were dating in college, he taught me to play while playing left handed.  I was no match for him even with him playing lefty.  We played off and on, just hitting the ball to each other, for fun over the years.  As more children came, we played less and less.  I hadn't hit a tennis ball in a year and a half and have never played a real game.  I decided it was time.  I took my high school sophomore (who plays on her school tennis team) to the courts and had her teach me how to keep score.  We played a real game, and I was slammed, but it was fun learning and was a great bonding time with my daughter.  I hope to find a friend more on  my level to play with, but now I know how to keep score!


Sunday, October 12, 2014

31 day writing challenge: Tech free day

I decided to see what life was like without the computer (other than putting up a post for the series), texting, talking on the phone, and my kindle fire.  I had a very quiet day, and it was rather peaceful.  But it had a bit of sadness to it because it is the 3 month anniversary of my miscarriage.  With the quiet, it was harder to distract myself from the sadness but maybe that isn't such a bad thing.  I think I will try this one more often especially when I need to center myself.


Saturday, October 11, 2014

31 day writing challenge: State park

One interest I share with my husband is the great outdoors.  We love to hike, fish, picnic, etc.  Since he had the day off, we decided to venture to a state park we had never been too.  While it was nothing to write home about, I am glad we went.  We hiked and had a picnic.  It was nice to have time to reconnect, which is so important for busy families.  Here are a few pictures from our trip.





Friday, October 10, 2014

31 day writing challenge: Homecoming garter mum

I'm not sure why my teens are notorious for waiting til the last minute for everything, but they are.  My 10th grader informed me last night that she needed me to make a garter mum for her date for homecoming.  Since I never had made one, I thought this would be a perfect first.  It was actually quite easy and fun.  It helps that I like to make crafts.  Here is my finished product.


Thursday, October 9, 2014

31 day writing challenge: A domestic rule of life

The last 8 weeks have flown by.  What have I done?  Have I accomplished anything?  I have rested a lot and had a lot of fun doing crafts, baking, decorating for fall, reading, playing Skip Bo on my Kindle Fire, and writing.  But many days I felt were just wasted, sitting in front of the computer, because I didn’t know what to do.  Often, I found myself needing to scramble to get dressed and ready to go right before it was time to pick up the children.  Basically, I have been undisciplined with my time, and maybe there was a purpose in that, what I needed, so to speak.  However, I have had a nagging feeling for the last week that I need more.  I could easily see myself fritter away the year reading blogs and crafting.  Neither is bad, but I want more of a schedule.  After visiting with my counselor and praying, I feel called to write a rule of life, in the same fashion monks at monasteries use.  Of course, I am not a contemplative, but I want to schedule my day to accomplish things all the while praying and resting in the midst of it.

 I read A Mother’sRule of Life years ago and was impressed.  I never really came up with much of a plan, though.  However, with more free time now and feelings of loss over homeschooling, I feel a need for something.  So, here is my Domestic Rule of Life for myself.  (The first part is the Rule and then the schedule follows) 



















(St. Benedict writing his Rule, from Wikipedia, Public Domain)


My Domestic Rule of Life

My job first and foremost is to be a wife and mother.  This is the vocation I have been called to live.  At this particular juncture of my life, I feel God wants me home, caring for my children and husband while the children attend Catholic school.  That may change in the future, but for now, I am to be a homemaker exclusively. 
I am going to be using the 5 P’s from A Mother’s Rule of Life:  prayer, partner, person, parent, and provider.  All of these must be included in my day.  Obviously prayer is my time with God including Mass, adoration, confession, Bible and other spiritual reading, the rosary.  Partner time is the time I nurture my marriage.  After God, marriage is the most important thing.  Person means taking care of me, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  This one is very important to me because I have neglected it for so long. The provider means I care for the house, provide meals, and tend the laundry.  The parent role is that of being a mom to my children, teaching them about God and tending to their emotional needs.  Taking care of the prayer and person needs should really help improve all of the other areas. 
Beside the hours of 6-7 AM and 3-10 PM when I am managing the children and their school activities, I have 8 hours of my day alone.  In prayer, I feel God is calling me to live a hidden life as Mary did.  I also feel like God has been calling me to rest and be  kind to myself, not requiring things that He does not call me to.  I will have a schedule similar to monks in a monastery. This will give me a feeling of accomplishment while attending to all of my duties along with restoring my soul.  I also hope to pray without ceasing as I go about my duties, praising God for the blessings of each thing.  I am also going to have interior silence daily as I walk. 
I will humbly attempt to fulfill my duties faithfully without seeking the need for attention or praise from anyone.  God sees all things done, and His glory is all that matters.  My job, while hidden and unappreciated to the world, is one of the most important duties in our times.  I am humbly learning contentment with my state in life. 
Each Sunday, I will meet with my husband to see what I accomplished during the week.  He will act as my accountability partner like a superior in a monastery. 



I will have a basic schedule, with things that change daily, so it is more of a loose schedule to follow.

6-6:30: rise and read the Bible and pray.  Child 1 up.
6:30-7 unload dishes and get lunches packed.
7-7:40 Children leave. Go for walk.
7:45 shower, dress, fix self
8:00 breakfast and read on computer
8:30 write
9:30 changeable (study for doula certification, garden, bills, crafts, etc.)
10:30 changeable
11:30 clean kitchen and eat lunch
12:00 read and nap
1:30 changeable (grocery store, volunteer work, laundry, clean house)
3:00 pick up children




Wednesday, October 8, 2014

31 day writing Challenge: crochet continued

I am continuing to practice new stitches.  My hands seem like two left feet; I can't seem to hold it well!  I thought I would leave you with a poem dealing with sewing in general with another meaning.


crochet cap




Sewn in Love


My soul unravels along the seam of life's journey.  
Darned by the master Tailor.
Stitches of my brokeness ripped from the fabric of my quilt.
Tangled and frayed, I try to follow;
letting myself be snipped of fear, shame, and pride.
My control is shredded,
and I realize my soul's utter nakedness.
Clothe me, O Lord, with You.
Hem the doubt, darn the judgment.
Gather Love in my heart.
Knit me with mercy. 
Goodbye old garment.
I am sew(n) in Love.


Tuesday, October 7, 2014

31 day challenge: crochet

I love to knit and taught myself by watching videos on the internet.  I have always wanted to try crocheting as well so this was the perfect time.  I found an easy tutorial video on you tube and watched and tried.  Since this is not a quick thing to learn, I am working on it tomorrow as well but will have a more detailed post.


Monday, October 6, 2014

31 day writing challenge: 3 mile walk

The weather was beautiful and the sun was calling.  I begged asked my husband if he would accompany me on a walk, which we do frequently, especially on weekends.  But today I wanted to walk further than I ever have and a different route.  We walked 3 miles, and I felt so invigorated when we were done, and it wasn't nearly as hard as I thought it would be.  I may make that part of my exercise plan.  I have been walking about a mile a day, but 3 may be doable.  I leave you with a picture of my sweet father.  He passed away one year ago today.  I miss him so much.

Sunday, October 5, 2014

31 Days of discovery writing challenge: Dancing by the campfire

I convinced my husband to build a fire after the kids were in bed so we could dance under the stars by the fire.  It was so romantic.  Money is tight right now so I am having to find cheap, simple, new things to do.  I do have a few adventures that will cost money, but I am relishing these simple ones that are so fine while being economical.  If you have never danced by a fire under the stars, give it a try.

Saturday, October 4, 2014

31 day challenge: Magic tricks

Today, I learned a few magic tricks.  My children, like most, are enchanted with magic tricks.  I learned a few on the internet, dressed up, and had a magic show for them.  So simple yet so much laughter and fun.  Children know instinctively how to live life to the fullest, to see the magic of the moment.  Somewhere along the road of life, most adults lose that sense.  I hope to reclaim some of that magic.


Friday, October 3, 2014

31 Day writing challenge: Chocolate pie

I love to cook and bake, but it has not been something I have done consistently the last few years due to the stress and depression in my life.  Now that I am not homeschooling, I am trying to make more homemade meals and baked goods for my family.  So, this month I will be trying out a few new recipes. 


I have always wanted to make a chocolate pie because I have a household full of chocolate lovers.  Not sure how that happened since I don’t like the stuff.  I know, poor me.  But, anyways, my mom made a chocolate pie each October for my dad’s birthday because it was his favorite pie.  She only made one then because she said they were a lot of work.  I never helped her but was always intrigued since she said it was difficult and it always turned out lovely.  Since my dad passed away October 6, 2013 and his birthday is coming up, I decided to make one.  I think he would have been proud.  It turned out amazingly well and it was devoured quite quickly by my crew so I know it was a hit.  Making this pie really hit home to me how much cooking is an art---just another form of expressing yourself. 


Thursday, October 2, 2014

31 Day writing challenge: 1. Discovery: The Ocean

Nature often beckons us on a path of healing. 


For some odd reason, the beach has been calling me for some time now. I kept putting off that pestering thought because, after all, I hate the beach.  The salt water, the sticky sand that feels like it won’t wash off, the sand that comes home with you… But the waves kept whispering for me to come… and…play.  Like picturesque mountains, the water, the sound, the feel, the taste, the rhythm, nurtures people. 



I know on a surface level, I need so much rest and re- creation to fill my love giving vessel brim full again. So yesterday, I heeded the call of the waves, and I went to the beach. Yes, I have been before but it’s been a long time and never alone. 3 hours away from home.  This is so unlike me.  I am a chicken, and did I mention, I HATE THE BEACH?!  But I went and so glad I did.  In the simplicity of walking on the beach, and in the silliness of riding on the waves, my eyes were opened to something missing in myself for a long time—wonder and amusement.  How can we carry the heavy burden of life if we don’t stop and lighten the load with a sense of enjoyment in the simple things of life?  Enjoying life’s pleasures that God provides gives us the strength to carry the crosses in life.  So, here is to discovering wonder and enjoyment once again in old and new things!


Anyone (besides my IRL friends) know where I was?  The ship gives it away...if you've been there.

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

October writing challenge: 31 Days of Discovery








Today I begin the 31 day challenge of writing about the same topic.  Wanting to do this for several years, I finally gave myself a much needed kick in the pants.  Most years, I have used the excuse of being busy with homeschooling.  Now that I am not, I have no valid reason.  I have a teensy bit of commitment fear, ehem, that means I am a bit lazy.  But I see a lot of value in doing this, and I have found the perfect topic for me.  It may not impress anyone, but that is not the point. 

Without further ado, I would like to introduce you to 31 days of Discovery.  Discovery of what, you may ask.  Actually, I am not sure…yet.  I chose this because this is my year of rest, and my year of rediscovering who I am and what I like to do.  After 19 years of homeschooling, with depression being my constant companion, I don’t know what I like anymore, and I have no idea really where to start.  So, my hopes are that this will jumpstart me into the realm of new ideas and new discoveries about myself.  I encourage you to try the same if you are feeling lost like you don’t know what the woman in the mirror likes to do anymore.  I am basing my idea on a book I read back in the spring called I Dare Me by Lu Ann Cahn.  Ms. Cahn found herself in a rut and wanted a way to recharge her life.  She had become bored with life and felt like a boring person.  To get herself out of this slump, she tried one new thing each day for a year.  I am not quite that ambitious so I am trying to do something new every day for 31 days in October and blog my thoughts and feelings about it along with sharing a picture from that activity.    Some of these things I have done before (but it has been a long time) and others I have not.  I know I will NOT be eating a scorpion like the author of the book did!  Feel free to try some new things this month and leave any comments about them.  









The Ocean

Chocolate Pie

Magic tricks

Dancing by the campfire

3 Mile walk

Crochet

Crochet continued

My domestic rule of life

Homecoming garter mum

State park

Tech free day

Tennis

Play in the rain

You Tube video

Lunch with friends

3 adult children

This introvert is fried

Blog change

Parent teacher conferences

Guest Post


Poll

School mom

Online class

Pinterest

Facebook

New blog