About Rest for the Weary

I hope you will find this little spot a place of rest and refreshment for your soul. My intention is to build up women in the trenches of homeschooling. This includes veterans who are burned out and former homeschooling moms who have decided for one reason or another to put some or all of their children in school. Thanks for stopping by. Take a deep breath of refreshment for your weary soul.

Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Series coming: Getting a handle on homeschooling burnout: Care for the homeschool mom

November through March tend to be very hard for homeschool moms.  Winter weather keep kids indoors more, illness abound, holidays bring chaos, and mom forgets to take care of herself through all of this.  Each week, I will be sharing several areas moms need to focus on to remain sane.  Please feel free to share your ideas in the comments because I don't have all of the answers, just what I have learned over 18 years of homeschooling. 

Friday, November 22, 2013

Homeschooling moms, pay yourself. You're worth it!

As homeschooling moms, we know it is a full time job in addition to all of our other homemaking duties. I often wonder what our worth is in money.  As a way to prevent burnout, I began paying myself because I am clocking in full-time hours (and then some) by homeschooling my children.  There are several ways I have done this: 

* Commit to time alone away from the children once a week

* Commit to a date night with husband monthly

* Take a half day retreat (or day if I can manage) once a month

* Take an overnight trip yearly

* frequently buy myself something I want--make-up, clothes, new book

* allow myself to use paper plates frequently

* bring take out home when I am tired.

There are many more wonderful ideas on things you could do.  You may have tweak things depending on your family and what your budget allows, but try to be creative.  Swap babysitting with another homeschool friend or have a homeschool teen over to watch the little ones while you do something for yourself.  Get creative!

What are you doing to "pay" yourself for your homeschool work?

Monday, November 18, 2013


I have been participating in a book study for A Million Little Ways by Emily Freeman.  This is a must read.  Without giving it away, I will share what I can.  This book is about creating, celebrating, and sharing your art----and that can be done in many ways.   I have often fretted that being a homeschooling mother wasn't enough, that somehow what I do wasn't important.  This book helped me see how so many things we do can be art.  Not just music, drawing, writing, and the like, but simple things like preparing a home cooked meal, sitting down day after day homeschooling your little ones, bringing a smile and joy to someone if you work in the public sector, and many more other ways.  I also believe that there isn't just one way for each of us to create.  God calls us in many ways, and those ways can change over time.  That is what is happening with me right now.  I am unsure what God is calling me to, although I have a bit of an inkling.  My art has been homeschooling for 18 years, but God is moving my family in unknown ways right now.  It is a bit scary, to leave that security behind, but I am sure He has wonderful things planned for me. 

Art, passion, and gifts

I am living this Holy week.  Actually, it is a Holy year+.  The cross of an ill child is difficult indeed, and when it presents itself in behavior as in bipolar disorder, it is agonizing.  Through all of this time, I have contemplated my art, passion, and gifts to God and the world.  I can't seem to recognize them through the fog of grief and anxiety. 

But maybe I need to press on, grappling for those things in the unknown, the unwanted, or the things that I take for granted.  But instead of accomplishing great, rewarding works, I instead notice the details, hug the pain as I sit at the foot of the cross sharing in Christ's agony, love the unlovable, forgiven the one who doesn't deserve it or ask for it.  Instead of turning inward and noticing my pain, I can look to the One who knows and experienced it all, and these can be my art, passion, and gifts to Him and others, including myself.

Monday, November 11, 2013

Bible verses on Trust

Trust is a big issue for me as a mother.  God is slowing getting through my thick head that it is a must have.  This past spring I spent my Lenten season gathering Bible verses on trust and meditating on them.  I wanted to share them in case anyone else is struggling with this issue. 

Thursday, November 7, 2013

Autumn changes

Just as autumn winds blow in the change of the season, so to is my life being tossed about with the wind.  I hope the change is a spectacular as the change of colors on the trees. We are in the process of discerning if we should send two more of our children to school after Christmas or wait for the next fall. That would leave me with just one child at home.    I really don't know all that will land in my lap right now, but I know I can trust that it will be good because I know who is in charge. 

Are you experiencing any changes in this season of your life right now? 

Sunday, November 3, 2013

My e-book

I am working on my e-book on leaving homeschooling.  The first 3 days of November I spent coming up with what I am going to write about.  I thought I would share a bit of what will be included.
It will be broken up into two parts:  Loss and Gain.


* identity
*illusion of control
*spiritual pride
* loss of vision
*loss of relationship
*loss of friendships


*becoming something different
*improved relationships

These are the main highlights; there are a lot of details in each point. 

Friday, November 1, 2013


November is National Novel Writing month.  I made an attempt at this several years ago and didn't make it past a week.  This time I am trying to write an e-book in 30 days.  My intended topic will be what most of this blog will be about--- dealing with the feelings that come when a homeschool mom puts her children in school.  I hope I will have it ready to be published by the new year but no promises.
In the meantime, please browse the archives which are a combination of my two previous blogs.  Most of the posts deal with issue pertaining to veteran homeschool moms, burn out, depression, and putting kids in school.  Here are a few you may want to start with:

Homeschooling is not gospel

Homeschooling myths

Thoughts on leaving homeschooling