About Rest for the Weary

I hope you will find this little spot a place of rest and refreshment for your soul. My intention is to build up women in the trenches of homeschooling. This includes veterans who are burned out and former homeschooling moms who have decided for one reason or another to put some or all of their children in school. Thanks for stopping by. Take a deep breath of refreshment for your weary soul.

Tuesday, June 21, 2016

Hello again

Sorry for the long absence.  Life is full with 5 children still at home.  School has wrapped up and summer is in full swing.  Last school year, I had 1 homeschooling (my youngest who is dyslexic), 3 in private school, and one in a public university.  Life is funny in that it is constantly changing.  Each season brings newness and so does family life.  This coming school year will bring new changes for us including public school for the first time for one child.  2 children will be at home and my child that will be a senior in high school will be finishing up via dual credit at the community college and taking 2 other classes online to finish her 4 required classes to get a high school diploma.  My child that will be at home (that was in private school for the last 2 1/2 years) asked to be homeschooled again.  He will be an 8th grader, and I promised him one year at home and if the public school is a good experience for my 10th grader, he will follow the next year. 
So, it is that time of year for making school decisions.  Sometimes I wish it were more simple like when I was a kid.  My parents gave it no thought; we just went to the local public school.  There was no yearly agonizing.  But I guess life has changed so I thought it might be helpful for you to read some others experiences regarding this decision. 

I decided to stop homeschooling (video)

What I discovered when I quit homeschooling

Why we are quitting homeschooling

Sending my homeschooled child to public school

Enjoy these! I hope to be posting again at more regular intervals. 

Saturday, June 18, 2016

Neglected blog

sorry for my absence. Several of you left comments and/or requested correspondence. I would love to chat with you! Please check back soon. I hope to have a new post and update up this coming week.

Friday, February 5, 2016

Leaving homeschooling

Here is a great article about one family leaving homeschooling.  It is called Leaving the Cloister.  I would love to hear your thoughts. 

Wednesday, December 2, 2015

5 Myths about homeschooling

Sorry I haven't been around lately.  I hope to begin writing more.  Life is sometimes a whirlwind.  I came across an excellent article about homeschooling myths. 

Thursday, October 22, 2015

Back to school

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Can you believe it is already back to school time? School supplies have been in stores around here for a couple of weeks now.  Many of you may be anticipating beginning your homeschool while others may be meeting brick and mortar school for the first time this fall with some trepidation.  Whatever the case may be, their are many preparations for getting ready for this time honored childhood ritual.  As a child, I loved starting back to school.  I enjoyed shopping for school supplies and new clothes.  The smell of new crayons brings back many fond memories.
I thought it might be helpful to remind you of posts from last summer on school preparations.
Creative school lunches
Backpack station
Clothing organization
Lunch making station
Organizing the large homeschooling family
Last year was such a big change for us, with all 5 children going to school, that I literally scrambled to get all of the above things accomplished to have a good transition into school.  This year I would like to do some special things before school starts to celebrate the end of summer and a new beginning of another year in school.  Maybe you would like to try some too.

Back to school rituals

1.First day of school photos

This is one thing I was really good about when I homeschooled all of my children.  On our first  of school, I took their picture with their favorite book.  Now that they are in school, I do the same thing except they are in school uniform.

2. School supplies

Let the kids go shopping with you for school supplies.  Splurge a bit and let them get some fancy pens, binders, or folders to make it their own.

3. Scrapbook

A couple of weeks before school starts, make a mini scrapbook of your summer.  My children did this, and we had a blast.

4. A special time for each child

When I was homeschooling, a week or so before school started, I took each child out individually for ice cream or some other treat and went over the coming year’s expectations.  This year I am going to take each child out for a treat and share memories from their first school year and our summer together.
What special things do you do with your children at the beginning of a new school year?

Being a stay-st-home-mom after homeschooling part 1: The change

Being a stay at home mom after homeschooling, removes the role of educator from mom.  Many mothers must enter the workforce while others will have little ones still at home. But what about the mom with all school age children?
This can be a difficult change, especially if you have been homeschooling a long time.  Homeschooling may be your identity and once shed, you may feel empty or unsure how to proceed.  Failure and guilt may plaque you as well.  (but that’s for another post)
When I placed all of my children in school, I was thrilled to be alone because I had been so burnt out.  I had an abundance of time to nourish my depleted body and soul.  I frittered away days in the eyes of the world.  I kept up the basics of the household and enjoyed the quiet that my introverted self missed for so many years.  For awhile this was fine, but after some time, my addicted-to-productivity-personality took up residence and sent fun packing.  I felt as useless as a 5th wheel because my very important job as main educator shiftedBeing just a mom didn’t seem important enough.
Writing a domestic rule of life along with a list of goals proved helpful.  With these in hand, I had direction instead of aimlessly wandering through the days unsure of what to do.
Filling the void of homeschooling poses difficulties.  If you are staying home utilize time to discover what you love.  Now is the time to investigate new hobbies, volunteer opportunities, or further your education.  Regain yourself outside of curriculum catalogs, lapbooks, and reading lessons.  Revitalize your vibrant personality and share it with your family.  It my feel scary or selfish to focus so much on yourself, but it will help you become a better wife and mother.
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Cons of homeschooling

Are there cons to homeschooling?
This is a hard post to write because I once was unabashedly pro-homeschooling and didn’t really believe there were cons to homeschooling.    Now, I am still for it in the right circumstances,  but I am not an over-the-top-everyone-needs-to-homeschool-to-be-a-good-parent any longer.  Many of you may be churning around the school choice decision in your mind, so I wanted to offer a few cons that I have discovered personally or through friends through my many years of homeschooling.  These aren’t normally verbalized because to do so would mean that it is not the perfect form of education and many in the movement would not want to admit that.  But I want to share these homeschooling cons for consideration so that people can make an informed choice.

1.  Financial.

Most families give up a second income to homeschool.  It is very difficult to have both parents work and     homeschool, although not impossible.   Many families who homeschool make a lot of sacrifices financially to live on one income. This is good to a point (being thrifty is a virtue IMHO), but it can be problematic as the years go on because some accumulate debt, others go without some things that really are needed (like regular dental care), most can’t save a lot for the future, and others can’t get loans for homes and cars.

2. Learning disabilities.

For many children with learning disabilities, homeschooling can be ideal.  I am homeschooling my dyslexic daughter for that very reason.  However, if you homeschool from the beginning, you may not be able to catch learning disabilities as quick if you are not well versed with them.  Also, the homeschool community tends to tout a better late than early approach so many moms don’t begin to worry or question problems until much later than the schools would.  I have personal experience with this because my oldest son was diagnosed with several learning disabilities at age 10.  I was a firm believer in letting children develop when they were ready and took the aforementioned approach with learning to read. Had I been knowledgeable about learning disabilities or he had been in school, this may have been caught sooner.

3. Lazy, unmotivated students.

Some kids just do not work well for mom.  Many of them tend to be lazy and unmotivated without that outside accountability.  I found this to be especially true as they reach the middle school years and my boys were also more like that although that may not be typical.  I think it is due more to personality.  My lazy children work so much better for their teachers at school.

4. Parent-child relationship.

This ties in with the one above.  Many times if you have a lazy child, you will be on them a lot, nagging them to get their work done.  Often they will complain that the work is dumb or boring.  This can lead to a lot of tension between mom and child because it wears mom down. I know with one child of mine in particular, I was not willing to sacrifice our relationship any longer because of homeschooling.  Now that she is out of the house for her education, the tension between us has reduced.

5. Socialization problems.

This is the most common con that homeschool opponents put forth to homeschoolers. After homeschooling 7 children for 20 years, I believe that homeschooling is not always the best socially for SOME children.  Both of my adult children whom were homeschooled completely through high school, thought that they were at a disadvantage socially.  I think if you homeschool your children, you need to take personalities into account and make sure you have plenty of opportunities for getting your children involved with friends especially when they are teens.
I am sure there are other cons of homeschooling, but these are the ones I have noticed the most.  Feel free to share any cons you have encountered through homeschooling.